From depending on sleeping tablets to great, natural sleep - Steve's Story

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Steve's sleep problem in brief:

+ Broken and disturbed sleep

+ Waking for the day from 3 or 4am

+ Felt reliant and stuck on sleeping tablets

+ Fear of going to bed

+ Significant affect on every day functioning

Steve developed sleep problems when he was dealing with an anxiety provoking health situation. His health situation improved but his sleep did not. He then struggled for over a year with the effects of sleep deprivation and dreading going to bed. He had just sought help when the Covid 19 pandemic took hold and saw us going into lockdown.

In his words…


Describe how things were for you just before you started working with Emma (e.g., how long the problem had been going on for, how much sleep you were getting, how you were feeling).

I was getting really broken sleep, sometimes only 4 hours a night and the lack of sleep meant I couldn't function in the day and it affected my family life which is really important to me. It was making me ill. My health situation improved but the sleep problems didn't improve at all. I was prescribed sleeping tablets which meant I was getting more sleep but I felt drowsy and lethargic the following day. I was anxious that they would stop prescribing the tablets which made me realise I was becoming reliant on them. I put up with this situation for over a year. I had a fear of going to bed, I was dreading going to bed because I knew I wasn't going to sleep. My family could see a deterioration in me and researched where I could go for help and I found your website. I was cynical that anything could help me and I was embarrassed that I couldn't do this really simple thing - to sleep. I didn't see how I would ever be able to come off the sleeping tablets


Describe how things are for you now. What has changed?

I felt like a weight was lifted off me as soon as I had my first session with you. The reliance of tablets has been taken away from me completely now. I have a flexible evening routine now, I listen to your recording if I need it but I haven't for a long time. I am much more relaxed in my approach to sleep, I don't go to bed and worry about it, if i wake up I don't fret about it and i am able to turn over and go back to sleep.  And all this during the Covid-19 crisis and the associated stress. I have got my days back, I feel more relaxed and we can make plans again. I am now getting anywhere between 6.5 - 8 hours sleep a night, every night. I even had a lie in yesterday morning. It has made the world of difference. 

If you could go back and give yourself a piece of advice or support when you were struggling, what would it be?

Talk to someone, open up. Don't think you can't do it because you can do it. 
Your nearest and dearest do suffer. You think it's only you suffering but your friends and family are affected too. 

Are there any other comments you would like to make?

It has always been done at a pace to suit me. The last few sessions have just been to support me coming off the sleeping tablets. I really didn't think I would be able to work online but it has been really good. 
A note from Emma
Steve was feeling very stuck and cynical when he first decided to work on improving his sleep. He needed some reassurance about what was going wrong with his sleep in order to be able to see a way forward. It was also important to remind him to trust the process as he was still stuck on how he would be able to come off the tablets. Trusting the process and taking one step at a time is what allowed him to overcome the problem and get the good quality, natural sleep he wanted and subsequently get his quality of life back.